Nesting? Preparing for baby? Anxiety.

We hit 30 weeks this past Tuesday!! Yikes, only 10 more weeks to go? Ryan doesn’t understand why this makes me anxious, there’s so much to be done still and so much to be bought. I finally made a list of things to be packed in our hospital bags, and a list of necessities for the baby we still need to buy. I also need to make a list of things to do before he comes.

Things we have done:

-Scheduled maternity pictures

-Set the time and date for the baby shower

-Ordered all the cloth diapers we’ll need for the newborn stash

-Received 2 boxes of clothes (sizes newborn, 0-3 months and some maternity clothes) from my sister

-Washed and put away the newborn clothes, towels, wash clothes, receiving blankets, burp cloths and fabric I bought to make a blanket for him and other things like burp cloths

-Did a little shopping- some things I’ll personally need after baby arrives, a dress for pictures/baby shower, a pair a maternity shorts, a set of baby towels and washcloths, and turquoise (squee!) plates and napkins for the baby shower

-Bought and washed a Moby wrap

-Today I’ll be washing and putting away the 0-3 months clothes just to get them off the table 🙂

What’s left? Soooo much! I need to make a list anyways, so let’s make one.

-I need to finish buying decorations for the baby shower, order the cake, figure out games, etc.

-Make sure Ryan has an outfit that compliments mine for maternity pictures

-Baby classes are next month

-Our bedroom needs rearranged for the pack n play and any other baby stuff we need to fit in there

-Once all the cloth diapers arrive they need prepped

-We’ll need to buy any baby necessities that we aren’t gifted at the baby shower

-I really want to at least make the baby blanket I got the fabric for at a minimum

-Hospital bags and diaper bag need packed (do I have everything I need for this??)

-I should probably finish reading 1 or 2 baby books that I started

Can this really be it? I feel like there should be more but am having a hard time thinking of things besides maybe doing a deep cleaning (or hiring someone to do it) and packing up the office and other things that can go into storage. This is definitely one reason to be thankful that we have no reason to decorate/put together a whole nursery (besides the saving money aspect of it).

You might be thinking “well she has 10 weeks left, plenty of time” and while this is true, we actually don’t have all that amount of time left. Ryan left Friday for 2 weeks for training so that’s time that he can’t help me with anything and the week he gets back we have our first child birthing class (which he’ll probably miss), maternity pictures and the baby shower. So make that 3 weeks that we’re limited on what we can do.

 

Anxiety accurately describes what I’m feeling-unprepared, rushed and so excited to meet our little one!

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Hello Third Trimester!

28 weeks today which is  the “official” start of the third trimester! Where has time gone? I swear it was just yesterday I was looking at a pregnancy test that said “pregnant.” In just 12 weeks..3 months is my due date, needless to say we’re kind of busy on the baby front 🙂

Instead of going out and buying everything we need for the baby at once we’re doing it little by little. I have to say I really think this is a less stressful, it can definitely get overwhelming when you look at all the things you need for a baby. A couple months ago I sat down,, decided what we needed/wanted after looking at multiple blog posts, pinterest pins, talking to mom’s about what they really used and couldn’t live without after their babies were born. My list looks kind of like this:

Baby furniture:

Crib (later-we’ll be moving a couple months after the baby is born so he’ll sleep in the pack n play for the first 3 months or so in our room)

Crib mattress (later-same reason as above)

Crib bedding-(later)-after doing research I decided against buying a set for multiple reasons so instead I’ll buy multiple crib sheets, a waterproof crib mattress pad, and blankets, including a quilt a friend is making for us!

Pack n play with bassinet

Changing table (maybe)– I decided against one

Bouncy seat (getting from my sister later after moving)

Swing (getting from my sister after moving)

Highchair (also getting from my sister after moving when we need it, we’re so lucky!)

Car seat

Stroller (buying from my sister)

Baby:

Cloth Diapers and everything needed with it (this is new to the list!)

Diaper Bag

Bottles

Binkies

Baby Wash

Towels

Washcloths

Bath tub

Burp Cloths

Bibs

Swaddlers

Monitor

Diapers

Wipes

Clothes (including a coming home outfit)-also getting lots of clothes from my sister since she had her son last August

Health/toiletry kit (thermometer, clippers, pain/fever reducer, nasal aspirator, diaper rash cream, etc.)

Baby proofing kit

Me:

Nursing pads

Nursing bras

Nipple Cream

Nursing Cover

Pump

Milk Storage Bags/Milk Savers

Soothies

Boppy

Moby or Boba Wrap

A lot of the small stuff we’re registered for so we’ll wait to buy those things till after the baby shower. We have: the pack n play, car seat (thanks to my in-laws!), some clothes I’ve picked up at a thrift store in various sizes, a pack of receiving blankets, burp cloths, a 3 pack of onsies from Target, a super soft rattle, a 2 hat and mitten set, nursing covers, wipes cover (gift from a friend), diaper bag (may purchase another), a Cloud B Soothing Sounds Giraffe (secret sender gift), a 2 pack of bottles I got brand new for $3, fabric to make a blanket and burp rags and stuff, and possible a couple other odds and ends I’ve picked up. This month I’ll be working on buying cloth diapers, the Moby or Boba wrap and getting stuff for the baby shower!

Since Ryan finally found out when he would be out of town for work we were able to tentatively set the date for the baby shower. I can’t wait to start buying and making things for it! I’ve been scouring Pinterest for ideas and I have an awesome, crafty friend here who is helping and we’re making as much as possible as far as food, favors and decorations. I’ll order the cake from probably another military spouse here who has much more experience than us 🙂

I also have to schedule maternity pictures. This also means I need to start shopping for outfits for our photo shoot!

Researching things has become a favorite past time of mine lately. I’ve downloaded so many books recently I’m sure I’ll never read them all, I just believe knowledge is power and I’ve been hoping it would sooth some of my anxiety. There’s so much to know about babies. Natural birthing information, circumcision vs not,  breastfeeding, cloth diapering, baby led solids, different parenting styles and techniques, and so much more, these are just things I’ve decided will work well with our family.

Baby classes start in May. Kind of along with this I should start thinking about hospital bags and at least start making a list.

Things are moving along quickly and I can’t imagine how fast the next 3 months will go compared to the first 7 especially with so much going coming up!

 

Oh the joys of pregnancy..

My husband will disagree with me but there’s a lot about pregnancy that no on ever told me and a lot of things I didn’t/wouldn’t expect. Here’s my list so far:

-Morning sickness is horrible and lasts FOREVER. Literally, it feels like forever and that you will never feel normal again.

  • It starts with food aversions-you won’t want to eat anything at all even though you know you can’t live on nothing.
  • Then it moves to full fledged vomiting. This doesn’t happen for everyone and you will hate everyone you know that didn’t get sick during their pregnancy. It’s normal-you’re miserable and it’s not fair. You may get sick in the morning, afternoon, evening or all of the above. For me, it was mostly at night but did occasionally happen first thing in the morning.
  • Morning sickness for me started at about 6 weeks and continued through to 15 weeks. During this time I tried every trick you could think of. I also tried taking Zofran which didn’t help, B6 which made me even sicker, Tums that didn’t help and Zantac which also didn’t help. One thing I did learn at the end was my body can’t handle the prescription prenatals and they contributed to my morning sickness at least at the end. I now take OTC ones that my stomach can handle.

-Gaining weight while you’re pregnant is EXTREMELY easy! And heaven forbid you should crave sweets-while you’re pregnant your body metabolizes sugar differently than it normally would so that donut/cookie/cupcake/etc that you want? Straight to your hips. You can try to stay away from those sweets but let me just say, easier said than done. As much as I hate to admit it, I’ll be incredibly lucky if I stay in between the recommended weight gain.

-While you know you’re going to gain weight and think you’ll embrace it, you may not. A lot of women are really self conscious about their weight gain. I think it’s pretty normal. Think about your pre-pregnant self and imagine gaining 25-35 lbs. Yeah, I’d rather not too. The last time I was at the doctor’s office the nurse said “well anything you gain now you’ll have to work to lose later.” Girl, you got that right. I CAN’T WAIT to start working out and getting back into shape after this baby comes.

I’m already planning how I’ll lose the weight and get back into shape. I plan on trying out Curves with my sister. In theory I really like their system-they help meal plan and it’s a circuit work out so every time you go in you workout your whole body and it’s supposed to burn about 500 calories each time. Do this 3 or 4 times a week and it should help I hope. I also have the Turbo Fire DVDs that I really do like for a good workout and I’m also going to be exploring other BeachBody workout options to supplement Curves. I’m serious about getting my body back plus maybe losing the “Kansas 15” I put on after I moved out here.

-Round Ligament Pain. Before I got pregnant and joined an online forum I had never heard of such a thing. No one that I know who has been pregnant has ever mentioned this. Luckily I’m not plagued frequently by this but when it hits it sucks! Usually it hits when I’m grocery shopping or haven’t drank enough water. But almost every time it makes this first time mama to be worry.

-No one ever told me how easily exercising, every day activities, household chores, etc will effect your body. If I do too much around the house I’m sitting for the rest of the night because my back can’t take it. Ryan and I went on a 2 mile walk Sunday with Harley (yay for exercising!) and when I was making dinner when we got back I just wanted to cry from the back pain. I don’t even have back problems normally but doing anything will make those muscles tighten right up. Your hips will also hurt when you do any of these things. A prenatal massage before this is over would be AMAZING.

And let’s not forget you’ll be out of breath so fast it’s embarrassing. Your body is pumping lots of extra blood, you’re carrying more weight than normal. Nothing is the same as it used to be.

-This one may just be me but it is normal for first time moms (to be) to have anxiety. Is the amount I’m feeling normal? Who knows. I’m anxious about everything.

  • The unknown of labor and delivery scares the bejesus out of me. I know and I have read that the female body is made for exactly this but..I’m still not looking forward to it at all. I think the best thing I can do is keep reading, taking in information and continue telling myself that it is a natural process and I need to trust my instincts, body and baby to do the right thing when the time comes.
  • I’m so anxious because we don’t have anything for the baby yet. Okay, I was reminded last night that’s not true. My sister just had her son last year so she’s giving us the bouncy seat and swing that my nephew doesn’t like plus the high chair when we need it and we’re buying her single jogging stroller since they had to get a sit and stand after having their second child. Things we’ve purchased for the baby: a box of wipes, a diaper bag and a 2 hat/2 mittens set. We’ve been given an adorable wipes case from my friend and a giraffe soothing sounds (secret sender from the forum I’m a member of). We only have the stuff we’ve purchased, the wipes case and giraffe soothing sounds at our house, that’s it. We need more for the baby for sure. And then Ryan will start saying things like “babe, we have 3 months left.” 3 Months??!! Do you know how fast time is flying? 3 months is nothing! But luckily we’re going to start buying stuff this month and have a baby shower in early May.
  • Speaking of not being ready…I feel like me and Ryan are not ready to bring home a newborn. How is it they allow you to take home a human being so small? Over Christmas my mother in law jokingly asked if we knew how we would discipline. What are the different parenting styles? How do we chose? Do we sleep train? My list for the unknown could seriously go on and on and on. Lots of reading in my future!

-Nesting is a real thing and it hits earlier than expected. There are a million things on my to-do list and I’m motivated-I really want to do these things…I just need to get the energy first. I do one thing and all I want to do is nap, it’s hard to just keep moving. It’s something I’m working on this week. But really, you should see my growing to do list.

-Things I’ve heard about but haven’t experienced yet:

  • Your nipples may leak. Apparently it’s common enough that people who it doesn’t happen to worry they won’t be able to successfully breastfeed. From what I’ve read and heard leaking while you’re pregnant is no indication of whether or not you’ll be able to successfully breastfeed so no worries. I’m hoping I can get through this pregnancy without any leaking happening or at least till my last month especially because I’ll have to deal with it enough postpartum.
  • You may have problems controlling your bladder. For instance-you could pee when you sneeze, laugh too much or cough. Why do we need to worry about leaking all sorts of bodily fluids while we’re pregnant? Oh and this may continue even after you have the baby. I really need to start doing my kegels, carrying a change of clothes in case I pee is not glamorous.

-And the good stuff:

  • No one ever told me how amazing it is to feel him kicking and moving in there. It is the most reassuring thing ever. I can’t even put it into words.
  • Hearing the heartbeat is pretty amazing too.
  • So is seeing the baby. And seeing your husband’s reaction to finding out the gender? Adorable/amazing. And since that ultrasound (anatomy scan), Ryan has been more participatory in the pregnancy and he’s also talked about the baby a lot more than before. ❤
  • You created and are nurturing a life. That’s right, you. And there’s a life inside you, growing by the day.
  • And when that baby comes, you’ll forget all the bad/less glamorous parts (so I hear, we’ll see 🙂 )