No more MIA

What a whirlwind it’s been since I last posted! So many things have happened, so many changes our little family has/is going through! Lots of tears both happy and sad. Expect lots of new posts coming up. Might as well start somewhere though so here’s part 1:

The End of Pregnancy

In one overwhelming weekend we had our maternity pictures done and our baby shower. Our maternity pictures turned out better than I could have hoped for and in getting them done I also found a friend, our photographer. Our husbands kind of work together-same MOS but currently doing different jobs and also in different companies. She’s a veteran herself, who also had the same MOS as our husbands. Here’s a couple of pictures from our shoot by Mindy King Photography.

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Our baby shower was a lot of work on our end since we didn’t have family there who would traditionally do pretty much all work for a baby shower, however I’m so glad we did it! Everyone had a good time, we played lots of games including my favorite to watch: blindfolded diaper changing race, and we got lots of things we needed for our little one. We are so lucky to have such great friends!

Shortly after our baby shower I started getting miserable. My body ached. I didn’t want to even drive any more. And of course we were moving out of our house. I think what you go through at the end of pregnancy is something that you can’t possibly understand till you’re there or have gone through it: you’re ready for it to be over, you may have a touch of depression, excitement when the midwife tells you that you are make progress, hope that the most ridiculous things will send you into labor (i.e-a full moon, baby crying, etc.), disappointment when you don’t experience even false labor or labor doesn’t happen as fast as you think it will and almost despair when your due date comes and goes and you’re still pregnant.

I wish I had posted about this during the time since now it seems like such a small thing. To sum it up, I felt like I was going to cry if I was pregnant for another day. But we made it through and everything was so worth it 🙂

And because it  was so amazing my labor story is next on its own post!

Nesting? Preparing for baby? Anxiety.

We hit 30 weeks this past Tuesday!! Yikes, only 10 more weeks to go? Ryan doesn’t understand why this makes me anxious, there’s so much to be done still and so much to be bought. I finally made a list of things to be packed in our hospital bags, and a list of necessities for the baby we still need to buy. I also need to make a list of things to do before he comes.

Things we have done:

-Scheduled maternity pictures

-Set the time and date for the baby shower

-Ordered all the cloth diapers we’ll need for the newborn stash

-Received 2 boxes of clothes (sizes newborn, 0-3 months and some maternity clothes) from my sister

-Washed and put away the newborn clothes, towels, wash clothes, receiving blankets, burp cloths and fabric I bought to make a blanket for him and other things like burp cloths

-Did a little shopping- some things I’ll personally need after baby arrives, a dress for pictures/baby shower, a pair a maternity shorts, a set of baby towels and washcloths, and turquoise (squee!) plates and napkins for the baby shower

-Bought and washed a Moby wrap

-Today I’ll be washing and putting away the 0-3 months clothes just to get them off the table 🙂

What’s left? Soooo much! I need to make a list anyways, so let’s make one.

-I need to finish buying decorations for the baby shower, order the cake, figure out games, etc.

-Make sure Ryan has an outfit that compliments mine for maternity pictures

-Baby classes are next month

-Our bedroom needs rearranged for the pack n play and any other baby stuff we need to fit in there

-Once all the cloth diapers arrive they need prepped

-We’ll need to buy any baby necessities that we aren’t gifted at the baby shower

-I really want to at least make the baby blanket I got the fabric for at a minimum

-Hospital bags and diaper bag need packed (do I have everything I need for this??)

-I should probably finish reading 1 or 2 baby books that I started

Can this really be it? I feel like there should be more but am having a hard time thinking of things besides maybe doing a deep cleaning (or hiring someone to do it) and packing up the office and other things that can go into storage. This is definitely one reason to be thankful that we have no reason to decorate/put together a whole nursery (besides the saving money aspect of it).

You might be thinking “well she has 10 weeks left, plenty of time” and while this is true, we actually don’t have all that amount of time left. Ryan left Friday for 2 weeks for training so that’s time that he can’t help me with anything and the week he gets back we have our first child birthing class (which he’ll probably miss), maternity pictures and the baby shower. So make that 3 weeks that we’re limited on what we can do.

 

Anxiety accurately describes what I’m feeling-unprepared, rushed and so excited to meet our little one!

Hello Third Trimester!

28 weeks today which is  the “official” start of the third trimester! Where has time gone? I swear it was just yesterday I was looking at a pregnancy test that said “pregnant.” In just 12 weeks..3 months is my due date, needless to say we’re kind of busy on the baby front 🙂

Instead of going out and buying everything we need for the baby at once we’re doing it little by little. I have to say I really think this is a less stressful, it can definitely get overwhelming when you look at all the things you need for a baby. A couple months ago I sat down,, decided what we needed/wanted after looking at multiple blog posts, pinterest pins, talking to mom’s about what they really used and couldn’t live without after their babies were born. My list looks kind of like this:

Baby furniture:

Crib (later-we’ll be moving a couple months after the baby is born so he’ll sleep in the pack n play for the first 3 months or so in our room)

Crib mattress (later-same reason as above)

Crib bedding-(later)-after doing research I decided against buying a set for multiple reasons so instead I’ll buy multiple crib sheets, a waterproof crib mattress pad, and blankets, including a quilt a friend is making for us!

Pack n play with bassinet

Changing table (maybe)– I decided against one

Bouncy seat (getting from my sister later after moving)

Swing (getting from my sister after moving)

Highchair (also getting from my sister after moving when we need it, we’re so lucky!)

Car seat

Stroller (buying from my sister)

Baby:

Cloth Diapers and everything needed with it (this is new to the list!)

Diaper Bag

Bottles

Binkies

Baby Wash

Towels

Washcloths

Bath tub

Burp Cloths

Bibs

Swaddlers

Monitor

Diapers

Wipes

Clothes (including a coming home outfit)-also getting lots of clothes from my sister since she had her son last August

Health/toiletry kit (thermometer, clippers, pain/fever reducer, nasal aspirator, diaper rash cream, etc.)

Baby proofing kit

Me:

Nursing pads

Nursing bras

Nipple Cream

Nursing Cover

Pump

Milk Storage Bags/Milk Savers

Soothies

Boppy

Moby or Boba Wrap

A lot of the small stuff we’re registered for so we’ll wait to buy those things till after the baby shower. We have: the pack n play, car seat (thanks to my in-laws!), some clothes I’ve picked up at a thrift store in various sizes, a pack of receiving blankets, burp cloths, a 3 pack of onsies from Target, a super soft rattle, a 2 hat and mitten set, nursing covers, wipes cover (gift from a friend), diaper bag (may purchase another), a Cloud B Soothing Sounds Giraffe (secret sender gift), a 2 pack of bottles I got brand new for $3, fabric to make a blanket and burp rags and stuff, and possible a couple other odds and ends I’ve picked up. This month I’ll be working on buying cloth diapers, the Moby or Boba wrap and getting stuff for the baby shower!

Since Ryan finally found out when he would be out of town for work we were able to tentatively set the date for the baby shower. I can’t wait to start buying and making things for it! I’ve been scouring Pinterest for ideas and I have an awesome, crafty friend here who is helping and we’re making as much as possible as far as food, favors and decorations. I’ll order the cake from probably another military spouse here who has much more experience than us 🙂

I also have to schedule maternity pictures. This also means I need to start shopping for outfits for our photo shoot!

Researching things has become a favorite past time of mine lately. I’ve downloaded so many books recently I’m sure I’ll never read them all, I just believe knowledge is power and I’ve been hoping it would sooth some of my anxiety. There’s so much to know about babies. Natural birthing information, circumcision vs not,  breastfeeding, cloth diapering, baby led solids, different parenting styles and techniques, and so much more, these are just things I’ve decided will work well with our family.

Baby classes start in May. Kind of along with this I should start thinking about hospital bags and at least start making a list.

Things are moving along quickly and I can’t imagine how fast the next 3 months will go compared to the first 7 especially with so much going coming up!

 

Progress

One of the projects I’ve been wanting to do once nesting hit was organizing the house. The past couple of weeks I’ve been trying slowly do this and I feel like we’re finally making progress (thank you 3 day weekend!). Saturday Ryan and I went through everything that had accumulated on the bookcase. I so wish I had taken a before picture because I’m very happy with the end result! We also went through all the extras that had collected in the downstairs and while there’s still some things that need put away, the downstairs is looking much better.

Something that’s helped with the home organization is my Hang-Up Home Organizer from Thirty-One. I just finally got around to using it and I’m not sure why I didn’t get around to this before. It’s so handy as a command center, especially set up in the kitchen.

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The dry erase board that I added has: To Do (errands, phone calls, etc.), We Need (things we need to buy) and Appointments (so Ryan knows when my doctor appointments are when to leave the Mazda for me). To the right of the dry erase board is my cleaning list which has morning/evenings and daily cleaning. Since the list is behind plastic I use the dry erase marker to mark off the things I’ve done. Since I’m just trying to get into this cleaning routine I don’t always get the daily items done in the same order, and sometimes I do more than the list says to do for that day so it makes it easy to keep track. Directly below the cleaning list is a list of the bigger things that need done according to the room. These are additional to the daily cleaning that I’m still trying to figure out if I should do them all weekly or just do one room per week. Again, this sheet is in plastic so I can use the dry erase marker to cross off the items I’ve done. The sticky note in the area is our possible menu, I did wonderful meal planning for this week so this list is just the meals I’ve came up with so I don’t assign a day to each meal. To the left of that is 2 little pockets, one just holds the sticky notes and the other holds coupons I don’t need to carry with me. On the bottom I’ve only needed 2 of the bigger pockets. One is for bills that need to be paid and the other is for outgoing mail that needs dropped off at the mailbox or post office. Eventually I may make some adjustments to our command center and cleaning lists but for now, I’m thankful to have both to help keep me on track.

Speaking of cleaning, this past week or so I’ve only used vinegar for cleaning and I love it. I really feel like it does as good of a job as any other cleaner but I’m not nearly as worried about smelling it. I also got my tea tree oil essential oil in the mail and am just waiting for the grapefruit to make a different cleaning solution to try out and I can’t wait! When we cleaned off the book shelf Ryan was ready to go get the Pledge and I had read that olive oil also worked but Ryan wasn’t convinced so we ended up just using a damp paper towel to dust. We’ll get there 🙂

To try to be more frugal I’ve been looking for to buy some things used and also been looking out for coupons. This is easier said than done. For example, a sewing machine. I’m not looking for a an antique and it seems like that’s 85% of the choices I’m seeing. Also, I can buy a brand new one that has lots of extras (such as a quilting table) and 30 or more different stitches already programmed for $130-$160. Some of the prices I’m seeing for used ones are $300+, why wouldn’t I just buy new? As for other things I’m looking for, people just aren’t selling right now but luckily they’re baby items and I have time.

Speaking of baby, things are definitely happening there! We ordered and received the pack n play and that is a relief as it’s one big thing to check off my list of things we need. Also, baby boy is moving like crazy! I can’t believe how much his movements are changing too, even within the last couple of weeks. Ryan will frequently tell me that he felt little one moving/kicking in the middle of the night when I’m asleep and in my mind I imagine it’s this sweet moment between the two of them but I’m sure that it’s not really like that but still thankful Ryan gets to feel him too! We’re also only a week away from the third trimester, I can’t believe it!

So that’s my little catch up after being MIA this weekend and I’m happy that it was for progress 🙂

 

 

Oh the joys of pregnancy..

My husband will disagree with me but there’s a lot about pregnancy that no on ever told me and a lot of things I didn’t/wouldn’t expect. Here’s my list so far:

-Morning sickness is horrible and lasts FOREVER. Literally, it feels like forever and that you will never feel normal again.

  • It starts with food aversions-you won’t want to eat anything at all even though you know you can’t live on nothing.
  • Then it moves to full fledged vomiting. This doesn’t happen for everyone and you will hate everyone you know that didn’t get sick during their pregnancy. It’s normal-you’re miserable and it’s not fair. You may get sick in the morning, afternoon, evening or all of the above. For me, it was mostly at night but did occasionally happen first thing in the morning.
  • Morning sickness for me started at about 6 weeks and continued through to 15 weeks. During this time I tried every trick you could think of. I also tried taking Zofran which didn’t help, B6 which made me even sicker, Tums that didn’t help and Zantac which also didn’t help. One thing I did learn at the end was my body can’t handle the prescription prenatals and they contributed to my morning sickness at least at the end. I now take OTC ones that my stomach can handle.

-Gaining weight while you’re pregnant is EXTREMELY easy! And heaven forbid you should crave sweets-while you’re pregnant your body metabolizes sugar differently than it normally would so that donut/cookie/cupcake/etc that you want? Straight to your hips. You can try to stay away from those sweets but let me just say, easier said than done. As much as I hate to admit it, I’ll be incredibly lucky if I stay in between the recommended weight gain.

-While you know you’re going to gain weight and think you’ll embrace it, you may not. A lot of women are really self conscious about their weight gain. I think it’s pretty normal. Think about your pre-pregnant self and imagine gaining 25-35 lbs. Yeah, I’d rather not too. The last time I was at the doctor’s office the nurse said “well anything you gain now you’ll have to work to lose later.” Girl, you got that right. I CAN’T WAIT to start working out and getting back into shape after this baby comes.

I’m already planning how I’ll lose the weight and get back into shape. I plan on trying out Curves with my sister. In theory I really like their system-they help meal plan and it’s a circuit work out so every time you go in you workout your whole body and it’s supposed to burn about 500 calories each time. Do this 3 or 4 times a week and it should help I hope. I also have the Turbo Fire DVDs that I really do like for a good workout and I’m also going to be exploring other BeachBody workout options to supplement Curves. I’m serious about getting my body back plus maybe losing the “Kansas 15” I put on after I moved out here.

-Round Ligament Pain. Before I got pregnant and joined an online forum I had never heard of such a thing. No one that I know who has been pregnant has ever mentioned this. Luckily I’m not plagued frequently by this but when it hits it sucks! Usually it hits when I’m grocery shopping or haven’t drank enough water. But almost every time it makes this first time mama to be worry.

-No one ever told me how easily exercising, every day activities, household chores, etc will effect your body. If I do too much around the house I’m sitting for the rest of the night because my back can’t take it. Ryan and I went on a 2 mile walk Sunday with Harley (yay for exercising!) and when I was making dinner when we got back I just wanted to cry from the back pain. I don’t even have back problems normally but doing anything will make those muscles tighten right up. Your hips will also hurt when you do any of these things. A prenatal massage before this is over would be AMAZING.

And let’s not forget you’ll be out of breath so fast it’s embarrassing. Your body is pumping lots of extra blood, you’re carrying more weight than normal. Nothing is the same as it used to be.

-This one may just be me but it is normal for first time moms (to be) to have anxiety. Is the amount I’m feeling normal? Who knows. I’m anxious about everything.

  • The unknown of labor and delivery scares the bejesus out of me. I know and I have read that the female body is made for exactly this but..I’m still not looking forward to it at all. I think the best thing I can do is keep reading, taking in information and continue telling myself that it is a natural process and I need to trust my instincts, body and baby to do the right thing when the time comes.
  • I’m so anxious because we don’t have anything for the baby yet. Okay, I was reminded last night that’s not true. My sister just had her son last year so she’s giving us the bouncy seat and swing that my nephew doesn’t like plus the high chair when we need it and we’re buying her single jogging stroller since they had to get a sit and stand after having their second child. Things we’ve purchased for the baby: a box of wipes, a diaper bag and a 2 hat/2 mittens set. We’ve been given an adorable wipes case from my friend and a giraffe soothing sounds (secret sender from the forum I’m a member of). We only have the stuff we’ve purchased, the wipes case and giraffe soothing sounds at our house, that’s it. We need more for the baby for sure. And then Ryan will start saying things like “babe, we have 3 months left.” 3 Months??!! Do you know how fast time is flying? 3 months is nothing! But luckily we’re going to start buying stuff this month and have a baby shower in early May.
  • Speaking of not being ready…I feel like me and Ryan are not ready to bring home a newborn. How is it they allow you to take home a human being so small? Over Christmas my mother in law jokingly asked if we knew how we would discipline. What are the different parenting styles? How do we chose? Do we sleep train? My list for the unknown could seriously go on and on and on. Lots of reading in my future!

-Nesting is a real thing and it hits earlier than expected. There are a million things on my to-do list and I’m motivated-I really want to do these things…I just need to get the energy first. I do one thing and all I want to do is nap, it’s hard to just keep moving. It’s something I’m working on this week. But really, you should see my growing to do list.

-Things I’ve heard about but haven’t experienced yet:

  • Your nipples may leak. Apparently it’s common enough that people who it doesn’t happen to worry they won’t be able to successfully breastfeed. From what I’ve read and heard leaking while you’re pregnant is no indication of whether or not you’ll be able to successfully breastfeed so no worries. I’m hoping I can get through this pregnancy without any leaking happening or at least till my last month especially because I’ll have to deal with it enough postpartum.
  • You may have problems controlling your bladder. For instance-you could pee when you sneeze, laugh too much or cough. Why do we need to worry about leaking all sorts of bodily fluids while we’re pregnant? Oh and this may continue even after you have the baby. I really need to start doing my kegels, carrying a change of clothes in case I pee is not glamorous.

-And the good stuff:

  • No one ever told me how amazing it is to feel him kicking and moving in there. It is the most reassuring thing ever. I can’t even put it into words.
  • Hearing the heartbeat is pretty amazing too.
  • So is seeing the baby. And seeing your husband’s reaction to finding out the gender? Adorable/amazing. And since that ultrasound (anatomy scan), Ryan has been more participatory in the pregnancy and he’s also talked about the baby a lot more than before. ❤
  • You created and are nurturing a life. That’s right, you. And there’s a life inside you, growing by the day.
  • And when that baby comes, you’ll forget all the bad/less glamorous parts (so I hear, we’ll see 🙂 )