So Blessed To Be His Wife

Every day I’m reminded of why I fell in love with my husband. It really is the little things that add up, especially when they’re unexpected, as well as the every day things we take advantage of. For example:

Ryan works so hard to support us. Okay, honestly, he would do his job regardless. However, because he does..and has made the choices in life that he has I’m able to stay at home. We both like it this way too, he’ll tell you that he’d like working to be a choice for me, not a requirement. So for the past year I’ve been a stay at home wife and will be a stay at home mom after our little one arrives, our little family is so lucky this is something we’re able to do.

Speaking of support, Ryan supports me in every way possible. I want to start a new venture? No problem, he’ll help me do it any way he can. He makes sure all my needs are met completely-emotionally/mentally, materialistically, etc. He is my partner.

He’s also my very best friend. We talk about everything, share everything, do most everything together.

He compliments me and compliments me every day. He is by far, the sweetest man I have ever known. I’ll frequently wake up to “Good morning beautiful” text messages, such a great way to start your day 🙂

I’m anxious and impatient and he is calm and patient. He is exactly what I need to keep me grounded.

He’s the kindest, most giving, understanding and accepting person I know. If you need help moving, someone to watch your house while your gone, a little help financially, etc., if he is able to he will help you. And he doesn’t judge at all. He’s also a great listener, if I need to vent about something, he’ll listen and validate my feelings. He’s had a long day at work? No problem, he’ll still come home and massage my feet or back, help me put lotion on, whatever I need.

He loves me enough to be honest. A week or two ago we were in bed and I said “I can’t wait to have my body back” and he said “me too.” At first, I was about to be upset (can we say hormonal?!) but then he said that he loves me, he loves my body and my belly and he loves our son and it was the most perfect, unexpected thing ever.

He’s honorable and loyal. The military life is not easy-it’s strict, it takes you away from your family very regularly, it’s a lot of long days and of course the deployments to combat zones just to mention a few. Ryan has other choices, he even went to college before joining the military and he wasn’t drafted, yet he chooses this.

He’ll surprise me. When I was still in Pennsylvania and he was here he used to have the most gorgeous flowers sent. A few days ago he surprised me with a sewing machine I’ve been asking for but had resigned myself into waiting for.

I know that there are so many more reasons I love him but he is an amazing best friend, partner, husband and he will be an amazing father too. I am so blessed to be his wife.

 

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Living Naturally and Frugally? The Beginning.

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Frugal

As a stay at home wife, I spend too much time thinking about money. This ranges from budgeting and saving to making and spending money.

February 1st Ryan was promoted at work, also getting a raise and at the end of February we leased a new vehicle. We had planned on getting a new one and getting the one we ended up with but we had not planned on walking away that day with it. Even though we had an idea of how much he would be making, we hadn’t even really been over finances to even know how much he was making with his raise when we went vehicle shopping. At least we went in already having an idea of how much we wanted our vehicle payments to be. So after walking away a down deposit lighter but with an additional car, that weekend we sat down and figured out a new budget based on his new income. I strongly urge everyone to do this before making any purchases over the amount you regularly spend at one time (for example any purchase that is more than your highest monthly bill not including rent/mortgage) or anything you may have a payment on. Luckily we were going to have more income than we had expected coming in so we were a lot better off than we thought, a huge weight off of both of our shoulders, especially with a baby on the way. The only problem? Now we know that we have more money so we’ve been spending more (this is coming to an end very very soon!).

Just because we have the money to spend does not mean that we need to spend it! We have some unavoidable expenses coming up with having a baby on the way and some other things but our savings account should be going up every month. So how can I contribute? This kind of goes with my last post . I will say that I’m not a huge fan of couponing but with this baby coming I’m becoming more and more interested in natural living and luckily it is often cheaper!

Living Naturally

I recently joined a group on Facebook for “crunchy” mamas with the intentions of learning more. Little did I know I already had some crunchy intentions for when the baby came. I plan on exclusively breastfeeding, baby wearing, baby lead solids and while I don’t currently plan on cloth diapering because I won’t have a washer and dryer available daily when I move back home I’m not completely against it and am still considering it. Joining this group made me think, what else can I do?

Natural cleaning supplies are a big one for me right now. I don’t want to be breathing in harmful chemicals to clean while I’m pregnant. I don’t even like doing it while I’m not pregnant, I don’t want to subject my baby to that too. I found a homemade shower cleaner on Pinterest that was so simple-just 1/2 vinegar and 1/2 Dawn dish soap in one of those dish scrubbers that hold the liquid. I figured I could handle using this cleaner while I’m in the shower before I get out. I was right and our shower has never looked better! So I started looking for more recipes for natural cleaners and other household/beauty/baby supplies.

While I’m still finding recipes that I like based on ingredients and ease of making them, I have purchased some base ingredients. Borax, washing soda and bulk baking soda are cheap (yay for combining natural and frugal!) and easy to find at any grocery store. I also bought the bar castile soap to use just as a personal/beauty product as is because I was able to find it easily in the store as well. When I say cheap, I mean all of these products were under $4 and the most I’ve seen recipes call for is 1 cup at a time and it’s usually less so just imagine how much I can make with these items for such a small amount! Other natural clean staples I had to purchase online since I didn’t feel like driving around from store to store to find. I ordered Dr. Bronners (most recommended by bloggers) liquid castile soap from Amazon and I chose the unscented baby mild formula since we do have a baby on the way. I will say that it was actually $2 cheaper through the actual Dr. Bronners website but there is a $20 minimum and this product wasn’t $20 and since it’s my first time using any of it I wasn’t ready to commit to a bigger bottle than the 32 oz or other products. If I like it though I’ll be ordering it directly through the Dr. Bronners website after this purchase.  Essential oils I purchased through Bulk Apothecary after seeing it on a blog and they turned out to be cheaper for a bigger size there than on Amazon. I just went with Tea Tree Oil and Grapefruit for right now but I know I’ll be adding more! Other things I need to purchase for sure: coconut oil, more vinegar (white and apple cider vinegar), distilled water and spray bottles. Items I’ll probably end up buying: witch hazel, beeswax, hydrogen peroxide, Shea butter, lemon juice and almond oil. This all sounds like a lot and it is but I won’t be buying more than one or two things at a time or as needed so I’m not overspending 🙂

I know there’s so much more I can to live more naturally and I will be but I’m making small steps. I can’t wait to try and share the recipes I’ve found with you! In the meantime, you can find me on Pinterest and see what I’m looking at there 🙂 

 

What are some ways you live frugally and/or naturally? I’d love to hear!

What will I do? (post baby)

Lately I’ve found myself thinking about doing things that will essentially keep me busy after the baby comes. 

-My first thought was becoming a consultant for another company. This may still be a possibility. I want something that will help me save money and hopefully make me a little money at the same time. There’s a few possible options for this: 

  • My sister is an Avon consultant so of course she suggested Avon. I do semi-regularly order from her (it would save me money). It’s a cheap start up cost ($10). I also love that you can order samples to give out/try on your own.
  • love Scentsy. I’m frequently ordering from a consultant back home, I’ve purchased 3 warmers myself and my sister also gave me a warmer for Christmas. I know people from back home would order from me since there’s not many consultants plus people I’ve become close to. And this would also save me money.
  • After this baby comes I’m really looking into getting into shape. I’m going to be moving back home temporarily and my sister suggested Curves. I checked it out online and there’s a couple things I love about it: the circuit workout-total body workout that burns 500 calories each time and they’ll help you meal plan. I also want to get back into running but when I move back home it’ll be around September and I’ll only have a limited amount of time before it gets cold and starts snowing. I could get a membership to the Y but if I enjoy Curves doing both would obviously double the gym cost per month. I also have the Turbo Fire workout DVDs. This brings me (the long way) to another option: being a Beachbody Coach. As a military spouse I can sign up free and get discounts on the workouts and other products, yay! Plus Ryan wants to get in shape/lose weight while he’s deployed and may be willing to try some Beachbody options, it would benefit us both.
  • I could also do something else completely different and maybe even something new.

-Ryan and I have talked before about going back to school. If you go too long between jobs and you’re not doing something to benefit your career it doesn’t look that great, even if it means you’re being a stay at home mom. I never completed my associates degree and when I moved to Kansas I was able to quit my job and not get another one. Ryan recently got promoted and we’re even more fortunate that I can afford to stay at home especially with a baby on the way (I can’t imagine and definitely feel for the mom’s who have to return to work and put their babies in daycare). I was never sure what I’d go back for but when I talked to Ryan about it the other night I think we have it figured out. The plan right now is that I’ll go back and finish my associates with a degree in something like office administration or book keeping (I’ve been looking at work at home options and book keeping is one of the top options and I would love to be able to do this eventually, best of both worlds!) . After I finish that I’ll go back for an associates for paralegal. I’ve always considered paralegal as an option and getting both associates will give me options. In the next couple of weeks I plan on going to the education center on post and talking to someone to get advice, see if this is a good plan and making an action plan.

-After spending too much time on Pinterest, I decided there’s a LOT of reasons I should learn how to sew. There’s so much I could make: crib bedding, burp cloths, bibs, a portable changing pad, a playmat, a cover for my Kindle Fire, etc, etc. I’d also need to buy a sewing machine but I feel it’s a good investment and Ryan thinks it wouldn’t take up too much space. Plus..if I got really good at making a certain item or items I could sell them and make some money.

So what will I do? I’m leaning most towards all of them. I definitely should go back to school. In order for us to pay out of pocket for it all I’ll probably only take 2 classes per semester and I can do them online or find a babysitter (specifically my family while I’m back home that we’d still pay) for a couple days a week. I can also take on another direct sales company (Beachbody coach? and Avon? I’m still not decided). And learning to sew is something we would definitely benefit from, we could save money from it, I can do it in my free time and maybe eventually make money from it. 

I realize that I may be feeling a little overly ambitious right now. I do wonder how much energy and time will I really have after the baby is here. And as I stated above, we are really fortunate that Ryan makes enough that I can stay at home and we don’t really have to cut back that much and we can still save each month. Luckily I also have time to decide and iron things out while I prepare for everything to change.