Dawson’s Birth Story

On Wednesday 8/26 at 5:30 am I called L&D (at their instruction) to see if they wanted me to go in to be induced. They told me we were good to go, go ahead and shower and eat a light breakfast then come in. I was so nervous I almost said forget about it, I can wait. But then I remembered I was so incredibly miserable. Ryan was already up and had been getting ready to go to PT just in case L&D was too busy for me to go in so we spent a few minutes deciding what he was going to do, go in to PT and then go to the hospital or just go to the hospital. Thankfully we decided to just go to the hospital. So I took a shower and ate a bowl of cereal and made sure our hospital bags were ready and everything at the house was pretty much taken care of. Then we took Harley to our friend’s house and made our way to the hospital. We got there about 7:30 because apparently it takes 2 hours for Ryan and I to get ready.

We got there about 8, they started pitocin about 9. This is when I found out the reason they were inducing me when I was 40 weeks and 1 day instead of waiting is because I had gestational hypertension and no one had told me until this point. My normal, non pregnant blood pressure is usually about 112/60-ish and for the last half of my pregnancy my blood pressure was just under 140/80, yikes!  I had already been dilating-I was 3 cm at 39 weeks and 4 at my 40 week appointment on Monday and still a 4 when I was admitted. Things were quite boring for a while. Ryan and I watched Supernatural and Bones and I made him go down to the cafeteria to get food to sneak me because I was starving.

About 1:00 pm I started getting painful contractions and I tried breathing through them and different positions but they started coming more frequently and painfully. At about 1:30 I asked for Nubane since I didn’t want the epidural. I didn’t get it till 2 because they needed to check me again before they gave it to me but I couldn’t sit or lay down because of the pain. I was at a 5 so they gave me the Nubane. I immediately felt really lightheaded, drowsy and nauseous in between contractions but it didn’t dull the contractions at all and they kept getting faster and harder. Ryan and I talked about getting the epidural and when the nurse asked me at 3 if I wanted it I said yes. I hadn’t planned or wanted to get one but there was no way I could have prepared for the amount of pain I was in from the contractions. At about 3:30/3:45 they finished the epidural and that was such a LLLOOOOOOONNNNNNGGGGG half an hour. While they were putting in the epidural the anesthesiologist was asking me questions, trying to make conversation and distract me but I was in so much pain it was such a surreal experience, I could hear everything going on and participate but I was out of it. It did take a few minutes to really kick in which worried me it wasn’t going to help but once it did kick in all I felt was pressure when a contraction hit and it was amazing!

At around 4:00 pm the midwife broke my water and she told me she could feel his hair! :) Once I started feeling a lot more pressure for longer periods of time they checked me and his head was right there and it was time to push. This was probably around 5/5:30, we had to wait for the room to be set up and the midwife to come in and then it was go time! I pushed maybe 10 times total with practice pushes and he born at 6:02 pm. They put him right on me and all I could do was cry. I knew I had been pregnant and we had a baby coming but it was still amazing to me that there was a baby and I brought him into this world.  I did end up with a second degree tear but he came out so fast. Thanks to the epidural I didn’t feel any pain from that or the stitching. I did however feel when I had to push and I could also feel his little head moving before he came out. The first pee and shower (I showered that night) were pretty painful because I was so sore from tearing.

The day after in the hospital was kind of interesting. Ryan had to leave because we had to be completely out of our house in preparation for the cleaners and carpet cleaners to come so we would be good to go on the move out inspection. Unfortunately because it took so long he ended up staying in our hotel room that night. The nurses at the hospital I delivered at are very hands off and really only came in for checking vitals on both of us. Well that night a storm came in and knocked the power out. We’re in a hospital, not a problem, right? Wrong, when the back up generators finally kicked on the only light that came on in my room was the bathroom light and that door was mostly closed. It took a while for the nurse to finally come in and check on us (my call button also was out) and when she did she told me that a woman a couple doors down from me had delivered with her husband holding a flashlight so the doctor and nurses could see, can you imagine?

We had such an amazing and positive labor and delivery experience, I definitely feel so incredibly blessed. Both Ryan and I fell completely in love with Dawson right away and our lives are so much better with him in it. Being a mother/parent and having your baby here is a million times greater than being pregnant :)

And of course, pictures!

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first time Daddy held him :)

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the day we brought him home :)

the day we brought him home :)

No more MIA

What a whirlwind it’s been since I last posted! So many things have happened, so many changes our little family has/is going through! Lots of tears both happy and sad. Expect lots of new posts coming up. Might as well start somewhere though so here’s part 1:

The End of Pregnancy

In one overwhelming weekend we had our maternity pictures done and our baby shower. Our maternity pictures turned out better than I could have hoped for and in getting them done I also found a friend, our photographer. Our husbands kind of work together-same MOS but currently doing different jobs and also in different companies. She’s a veteran herself, who also had the same MOS as our husbands. Here’s a couple of pictures from our shoot by Mindy King Photography.

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Our baby shower was a lot of work on our end since we didn’t have family there who would traditionally do pretty much all work for a baby shower, however I’m so glad we did it! Everyone had a good time, we played lots of games including my favorite to watch: blindfolded diaper changing race, and we got lots of things we needed for our little one. We are so lucky to have such great friends!

Shortly after our baby shower I started getting miserable. My body ached. I didn’t want to even drive any more. And of course we were moving out of our house. I think what you go through at the end of pregnancy is something that you can’t possibly understand till you’re there or have gone through it: you’re ready for it to be over, you may have a touch of depression, excitement when the midwife tells you that you are make progress, hope that the most ridiculous things will send you into labor (i.e-a full moon, baby crying, etc.), disappointment when you don’t experience even false labor or labor doesn’t happen as fast as you think it will and almost despair when your due date comes and goes and you’re still pregnant.

I wish I had posted about this during the time since now it seems like such a small thing. To sum it up, I felt like I was going to cry if I was pregnant for another day. But we made it through and everything was so worth it :)

And because it  was so amazing my labor story is next on its own post!

Nesting? Preparing for baby? Anxiety.

We hit 30 weeks this past Tuesday!! Yikes, only 10 more weeks to go? Ryan doesn’t understand why this makes me anxious, there’s so much to be done still and so much to be bought. I finally made a list of things to be packed in our hospital bags, and a list of necessities for the baby we still need to buy. I also need to make a list of things to do before he comes.

Things we have done:

-Scheduled maternity pictures

-Set the time and date for the baby shower

-Ordered all the cloth diapers we’ll need for the newborn stash

-Received 2 boxes of clothes (sizes newborn, 0-3 months and some maternity clothes) from my sister

-Washed and put away the newborn clothes, towels, wash clothes, receiving blankets, burp cloths and fabric I bought to make a blanket for him and other things like burp cloths

-Did a little shopping- some things I’ll personally need after baby arrives, a dress for pictures/baby shower, a pair a maternity shorts, a set of baby towels and washcloths, and turquoise (squee!) plates and napkins for the baby shower

-Bought and washed a Moby wrap

-Today I’ll be washing and putting away the 0-3 months clothes just to get them off the table :)

What’s left? Soooo much! I need to make a list anyways, so let’s make one.

-I need to finish buying decorations for the baby shower, order the cake, figure out games, etc.

-Make sure Ryan has an outfit that compliments mine for maternity pictures

-Baby classes are next month

-Our bedroom needs rearranged for the pack n play and any other baby stuff we need to fit in there

-Once all the cloth diapers arrive they need prepped

-We’ll need to buy any baby necessities that we aren’t gifted at the baby shower

-I really want to at least make the baby blanket I got the fabric for at a minimum

-Hospital bags and diaper bag need packed (do I have everything I need for this??)

-I should probably finish reading 1 or 2 baby books that I started

Can this really be it? I feel like there should be more but am having a hard time thinking of things besides maybe doing a deep cleaning (or hiring someone to do it) and packing up the office and other things that can go into storage. This is definitely one reason to be thankful that we have no reason to decorate/put together a whole nursery (besides the saving money aspect of it).

You might be thinking “well she has 10 weeks left, plenty of time” and while this is true, we actually don’t have all that amount of time left. Ryan left Friday for 2 weeks for training so that’s time that he can’t help me with anything and the week he gets back we have our first child birthing class (which he’ll probably miss), maternity pictures and the baby shower. So make that 3 weeks that we’re limited on what we can do.

 

Anxiety accurately describes what I’m feeling-unprepared, rushed and so excited to meet our little one!

So Blessed To Be His Wife

Every day I’m reminded of why I fell in love with my husband. It really is the little things that add up, especially when they’re unexpected, as well as the every day things we take advantage of. For example:

Ryan works so hard to support us. Okay, honestly, he would do his job regardless. However, because he does..and has made the choices in life that he has I’m able to stay at home. We both like it this way too, he’ll tell you that he’d like working to be a choice for me, not a requirement. So for the past year I’ve been a stay at home wife and will be a stay at home mom after our little one arrives, our little family is so lucky this is something we’re able to do.

Speaking of support, Ryan supports me in every way possible. I want to start a new venture? No problem, he’ll help me do it any way he can. He makes sure all my needs are met completely-emotionally/mentally, materialistically, etc. He is my partner.

He’s also my very best friend. We talk about everything, share everything, do most everything together.

He compliments me and compliments me every day. He is by far, the sweetest man I have ever known. I’ll frequently wake up to “Good morning beautiful” text messages, such a great way to start your day :)

I’m anxious and impatient and he is calm and patient. He is exactly what I need to keep me grounded.

He’s the kindest, most giving, understanding and accepting person I know. If you need help moving, someone to watch your house while your gone, a little help financially, etc., if he is able to he will help you. And he doesn’t judge at all. He’s also a great listener, if I need to vent about something, he’ll listen and validate my feelings. He’s had a long day at work? No problem, he’ll still come home and massage my feet or back, help me put lotion on, whatever I need.

He loves me enough to be honest. A week or two ago we were in bed and I said “I can’t wait to have my body back” and he said “me too.” At first, I was about to be upset (can we say hormonal?!) but then he said that he loves me, he loves my body and my belly and he loves our son and it was the most perfect, unexpected thing ever.

He’s honorable and loyal. The military life is not easy-it’s strict, it takes you away from your family very regularly, it’s a lot of long days and of course the deployments to combat zones just to mention a few. Ryan has other choices, he even went to college before joining the military and he wasn’t drafted, yet he chooses this.

He’ll surprise me. When I was still in Pennsylvania and he was here he used to have the most gorgeous flowers sent. A few days ago he surprised me with a sewing machine I’ve been asking for but had resigned myself into waiting for.

I know that there are so many more reasons I love him but he is an amazing best friend, partner, husband and he will be an amazing father too. I am so blessed to be his wife.

 

Hello Third Trimester!

28 weeks today which is  the “official” start of the third trimester! Where has time gone? I swear it was just yesterday I was looking at a pregnancy test that said “pregnant.” In just 12 weeks..3 months is my due date, needless to say we’re kind of busy on the baby front :)

Instead of going out and buying everything we need for the baby at once we’re doing it little by little. I have to say I really think this is a less stressful, it can definitely get overwhelming when you look at all the things you need for a baby. A couple months ago I sat down,, decided what we needed/wanted after looking at multiple blog posts, pinterest pins, talking to mom’s about what they really used and couldn’t live without after their babies were born. My list looks kind of like this:

Baby furniture:

Crib (later-we’ll be moving a couple months after the baby is born so he’ll sleep in the pack n play for the first 3 months or so in our room)

Crib mattress (later-same reason as above)

Crib bedding-(later)-after doing research I decided against buying a set for multiple reasons so instead I’ll buy multiple crib sheets, a waterproof crib mattress pad, and blankets, including a quilt a friend is making for us!

Pack n play with bassinet

Changing table (maybe)- I decided against one

Bouncy seat (getting from my sister later after moving)

Swing (getting from my sister after moving)

Highchair (also getting from my sister after moving when we need it, we’re so lucky!)

Car seat

Stroller (buying from my sister)

Baby:

Cloth Diapers and everything needed with it (this is new to the list!)

Diaper Bag

Bottles

Binkies

Baby Wash

Towels

Washcloths

Bath tub

Burp Cloths

Bibs

Swaddlers

Monitor

Diapers

Wipes

Clothes (including a coming home outfit)-also getting lots of clothes from my sister since she had her son last August

Health/toiletry kit (thermometer, clippers, pain/fever reducer, nasal aspirator, diaper rash cream, etc.)

Baby proofing kit

Me:

Nursing pads

Nursing bras

Nipple Cream

Nursing Cover

Pump

Milk Storage Bags/Milk Savers

Soothies

Boppy

Moby or Boba Wrap

A lot of the small stuff we’re registered for so we’ll wait to buy those things till after the baby shower. We have: the pack n play, car seat (thanks to my in-laws!), some clothes I’ve picked up at a thrift store in various sizes, a pack of receiving blankets, burp cloths, a 3 pack of onsies from Target, a super soft rattle, a 2 hat and mitten set, nursing covers, wipes cover (gift from a friend), diaper bag (may purchase another), a Cloud B Soothing Sounds Giraffe (secret sender gift), a 2 pack of bottles I got brand new for $3, fabric to make a blanket and burp rags and stuff, and possible a couple other odds and ends I’ve picked up. This month I’ll be working on buying cloth diapers, the Moby or Boba wrap and getting stuff for the baby shower!

Since Ryan finally found out when he would be out of town for work we were able to tentatively set the date for the baby shower. I can’t wait to start buying and making things for it! I’ve been scouring Pinterest for ideas and I have an awesome, crafty friend here who is helping and we’re making as much as possible as far as food, favors and decorations. I’ll order the cake from probably another military spouse here who has much more experience than us :)

I also have to schedule maternity pictures. This also means I need to start shopping for outfits for our photo shoot!

Researching things has become a favorite past time of mine lately. I’ve downloaded so many books recently I’m sure I’ll never read them all, I just believe knowledge is power and I’ve been hoping it would sooth some of my anxiety. There’s so much to know about babies. Natural birthing information, circumcision vs not,  breastfeeding, cloth diapering, baby led solids, different parenting styles and techniques, and so much more, these are just things I’ve decided will work well with our family.

Baby classes start in May. Kind of along with this I should start thinking about hospital bags and at least start making a list.

Things are moving along quickly and I can’t imagine how fast the next 3 months will go compared to the first 7 especially with so much going coming up!

 

Progress

One of the projects I’ve been wanting to do once nesting hit was organizing the house. The past couple of weeks I’ve been trying slowly do this and I feel like we’re finally making progress (thank you 3 day weekend!). Saturday Ryan and I went through everything that had accumulated on the bookcase. I so wish I had taken a before picture because I’m very happy with the end result! We also went through all the extras that had collected in the downstairs and while there’s still some things that need put away, the downstairs is looking much better.

Something that’s helped with the home organization is my Hang-Up Home Organizer from Thirty-One. I just finally got around to using it and I’m not sure why I didn’t get around to this before. It’s so handy as a command center, especially set up in the kitchen.

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The dry erase board that I added has: To Do (errands, phone calls, etc.), We Need (things we need to buy) and Appointments (so Ryan knows when my doctor appointments are when to leave the Mazda for me). To the right of the dry erase board is my cleaning list which has morning/evenings and daily cleaning. Since the list is behind plastic I use the dry erase marker to mark off the things I’ve done. Since I’m just trying to get into this cleaning routine I don’t always get the daily items done in the same order, and sometimes I do more than the list says to do for that day so it makes it easy to keep track. Directly below the cleaning list is a list of the bigger things that need done according to the room. These are additional to the daily cleaning that I’m still trying to figure out if I should do them all weekly or just do one room per week. Again, this sheet is in plastic so I can use the dry erase marker to cross off the items I’ve done. The sticky note in the area is our possible menu, I did wonderful meal planning for this week so this list is just the meals I’ve came up with so I don’t assign a day to each meal. To the left of that is 2 little pockets, one just holds the sticky notes and the other holds coupons I don’t need to carry with me. On the bottom I’ve only needed 2 of the bigger pockets. One is for bills that need to be paid and the other is for outgoing mail that needs dropped off at the mailbox or post office. Eventually I may make some adjustments to our command center and cleaning lists but for now, I’m thankful to have both to help keep me on track.

Speaking of cleaning, this past week or so I’ve only used vinegar for cleaning and I love it. I really feel like it does as good of a job as any other cleaner but I’m not nearly as worried about smelling it. I also got my tea tree oil essential oil in the mail and am just waiting for the grapefruit to make a different cleaning solution to try out and I can’t wait! When we cleaned off the book shelf Ryan was ready to go get the Pledge and I had read that olive oil also worked but Ryan wasn’t convinced so we ended up just using a damp paper towel to dust. We’ll get there :)

To try to be more frugal I’ve been looking for to buy some things used and also been looking out for coupons. This is easier said than done. For example, a sewing machine. I’m not looking for a an antique and it seems like that’s 85% of the choices I’m seeing. Also, I can buy a brand new one that has lots of extras (such as a quilting table) and 30 or more different stitches already programmed for $130-$160. Some of the prices I’m seeing for used ones are $300+, why wouldn’t I just buy new? As for other things I’m looking for, people just aren’t selling right now but luckily they’re baby items and I have time.

Speaking of baby, things are definitely happening there! We ordered and received the pack n play and that is a relief as it’s one big thing to check off my list of things we need. Also, baby boy is moving like crazy! I can’t believe how much his movements are changing too, even within the last couple of weeks. Ryan will frequently tell me that he felt little one moving/kicking in the middle of the night when I’m asleep and in my mind I imagine it’s this sweet moment between the two of them but I’m sure that it’s not really like that but still thankful Ryan gets to feel him too! We’re also only a week away from the third trimester, I can’t believe it!

So that’s my little catch up after being MIA this weekend and I’m happy that it was for progress :)

 

 

Living Naturally and Frugally? The Beginning.

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Frugal

As a stay at home wife, I spend too much time thinking about money. This ranges from budgeting and saving to making and spending money.

February 1st Ryan was promoted at work, also getting a raise and at the end of February we leased a new vehicle. We had planned on getting a new one and getting the one we ended up with but we had not planned on walking away that day with it. Even though we had an idea of how much he would be making, we hadn’t even really been over finances to even know how much he was making with his raise when we went vehicle shopping. At least we went in already having an idea of how much we wanted our vehicle payments to be. So after walking away a down deposit lighter but with an additional car, that weekend we sat down and figured out a new budget based on his new income. I strongly urge everyone to do this before making any purchases over the amount you regularly spend at one time (for example any purchase that is more than your highest monthly bill not including rent/mortgage) or anything you may have a payment on. Luckily we were going to have more income than we had expected coming in so we were a lot better off than we thought, a huge weight off of both of our shoulders, especially with a baby on the way. The only problem? Now we know that we have more money so we’ve been spending more (this is coming to an end very very soon!).

Just because we have the money to spend does not mean that we need to spend it! We have some unavoidable expenses coming up with having a baby on the way and some other things but our savings account should be going up every month. So how can I contribute? This kind of goes with my last post . I will say that I’m not a huge fan of couponing but with this baby coming I’m becoming more and more interested in natural living and luckily it is often cheaper!

Living Naturally

I recently joined a group on Facebook for “crunchy” mamas with the intentions of learning more. Little did I know I already had some crunchy intentions for when the baby came. I plan on exclusively breastfeeding, baby wearing, baby lead solids and while I don’t currently plan on cloth diapering because I won’t have a washer and dryer available daily when I move back home I’m not completely against it and am still considering it. Joining this group made me think, what else can I do?

Natural cleaning supplies are a big one for me right now. I don’t want to be breathing in harmful chemicals to clean while I’m pregnant. I don’t even like doing it while I’m not pregnant, I don’t want to subject my baby to that too. I found a homemade shower cleaner on Pinterest that was so simple-just 1/2 vinegar and 1/2 Dawn dish soap in one of those dish scrubbers that hold the liquid. I figured I could handle using this cleaner while I’m in the shower before I get out. I was right and our shower has never looked better! So I started looking for more recipes for natural cleaners and other household/beauty/baby supplies.

While I’m still finding recipes that I like based on ingredients and ease of making them, I have purchased some base ingredients. Borax, washing soda and bulk baking soda are cheap (yay for combining natural and frugal!) and easy to find at any grocery store. I also bought the bar castile soap to use just as a personal/beauty product as is because I was able to find it easily in the store as well. When I say cheap, I mean all of these products were under $4 and the most I’ve seen recipes call for is 1 cup at a time and it’s usually less so just imagine how much I can make with these items for such a small amount! Other natural clean staples I had to purchase online since I didn’t feel like driving around from store to store to find. I ordered Dr. Bronners (most recommended by bloggers) liquid castile soap from Amazon and I chose the unscented baby mild formula since we do have a baby on the way. I will say that it was actually $2 cheaper through the actual Dr. Bronners website but there is a $20 minimum and this product wasn’t $20 and since it’s my first time using any of it I wasn’t ready to commit to a bigger bottle than the 32 oz or other products. If I like it though I’ll be ordering it directly through the Dr. Bronners website after this purchase.  Essential oils I purchased through Bulk Apothecary after seeing it on a blog and they turned out to be cheaper for a bigger size there than on Amazon. I just went with Tea Tree Oil and Grapefruit for right now but I know I’ll be adding more! Other things I need to purchase for sure: coconut oil, more vinegar (white and apple cider vinegar), distilled water and spray bottles. Items I’ll probably end up buying: witch hazel, beeswax, hydrogen peroxide, Shea butter, lemon juice and almond oil. This all sounds like a lot and it is but I won’t be buying more than one or two things at a time or as needed so I’m not overspending :)

I know there’s so much more I can to live more naturally and I will be but I’m making small steps. I can’t wait to try and share the recipes I’ve found with you! In the meantime, you can find me on Pinterest and see what I’m looking at there :) 

 

What are some ways you live frugally and/or naturally? I’d love to hear!

What will I do? (post baby)

Lately I’ve found myself thinking about doing things that will essentially keep me busy after the baby comes. 

-My first thought was becoming a consultant for another company. This may still be a possibility. I want something that will help me save money and hopefully make me a little money at the same time. There’s a few possible options for this: 

  • My sister is an Avon consultant so of course she suggested Avon. I do semi-regularly order from her (it would save me money). It’s a cheap start up cost ($10). I also love that you can order samples to give out/try on your own.
  • love Scentsy. I’m frequently ordering from a consultant back home, I’ve purchased 3 warmers myself and my sister also gave me a warmer for Christmas. I know people from back home would order from me since there’s not many consultants plus people I’ve become close to. And this would also save me money.
  • After this baby comes I’m really looking into getting into shape. I’m going to be moving back home temporarily and my sister suggested Curves. I checked it out online and there’s a couple things I love about it: the circuit workout-total body workout that burns 500 calories each time and they’ll help you meal plan. I also want to get back into running but when I move back home it’ll be around September and I’ll only have a limited amount of time before it gets cold and starts snowing. I could get a membership to the Y but if I enjoy Curves doing both would obviously double the gym cost per month. I also have the Turbo Fire workout DVDs. This brings me (the long way) to another option: being a Beachbody Coach. As a military spouse I can sign up free and get discounts on the workouts and other products, yay! Plus Ryan wants to get in shape/lose weight while he’s deployed and may be willing to try some Beachbody options, it would benefit us both.
  • I could also do something else completely different and maybe even something new.

-Ryan and I have talked before about going back to school. If you go too long between jobs and you’re not doing something to benefit your career it doesn’t look that great, even if it means you’re being a stay at home mom. I never completed my associates degree and when I moved to Kansas I was able to quit my job and not get another one. Ryan recently got promoted and we’re even more fortunate that I can afford to stay at home especially with a baby on the way (I can’t imagine and definitely feel for the mom’s who have to return to work and put their babies in daycare). I was never sure what I’d go back for but when I talked to Ryan about it the other night I think we have it figured out. The plan right now is that I’ll go back and finish my associates with a degree in something like office administration or book keeping (I’ve been looking at work at home options and book keeping is one of the top options and I would love to be able to do this eventually, best of both worlds!) . After I finish that I’ll go back for an associates for paralegal. I’ve always considered paralegal as an option and getting both associates will give me options. In the next couple of weeks I plan on going to the education center on post and talking to someone to get advice, see if this is a good plan and making an action plan.

-After spending too much time on Pinterest, I decided there’s a LOT of reasons I should learn how to sew. There’s so much I could make: crib bedding, burp cloths, bibs, a portable changing pad, a playmat, a cover for my Kindle Fire, etc, etc. I’d also need to buy a sewing machine but I feel it’s a good investment and Ryan thinks it wouldn’t take up too much space. Plus..if I got really good at making a certain item or items I could sell them and make some money.

So what will I do? I’m leaning most towards all of them. I definitely should go back to school. In order for us to pay out of pocket for it all I’ll probably only take 2 classes per semester and I can do them online or find a babysitter (specifically my family while I’m back home that we’d still pay) for a couple days a week. I can also take on another direct sales company (Beachbody coach? and Avon? I’m still not decided). And learning to sew is something we would definitely benefit from, we could save money from it, I can do it in my free time and maybe eventually make money from it. 

I realize that I may be feeling a little overly ambitious right now. I do wonder how much energy and time will I really have after the baby is here. And as I stated above, we are really fortunate that Ryan makes enough that I can stay at home and we don’t really have to cut back that much and we can still save each month. Luckily I also have time to decide and iron things out while I prepare for everything to change.

Oh the joys of pregnancy..

My husband will disagree with me but there’s a lot about pregnancy that no on ever told me and a lot of things I didn’t/wouldn’t expect. Here’s my list so far:

-Morning sickness is horrible and lasts FOREVER. Literally, it feels like forever and that you will never feel normal again.

  • It starts with food aversions-you won’t want to eat anything at all even though you know you can’t live on nothing.
  • Then it moves to full fledged vomiting. This doesn’t happen for everyone and you will hate everyone you know that didn’t get sick during their pregnancy. It’s normal-you’re miserable and it’s not fair. You may get sick in the morning, afternoon, evening or all of the above. For me, it was mostly at night but did occasionally happen first thing in the morning.
  • Morning sickness for me started at about 6 weeks and continued through to 15 weeks. During this time I tried every trick you could think of. I also tried taking Zofran which didn’t help, B6 which made me even sicker, Tums that didn’t help and Zantac which also didn’t help. One thing I did learn at the end was my body can’t handle the prescription prenatals and they contributed to my morning sickness at least at the end. I now take OTC ones that my stomach can handle.

-Gaining weight while you’re pregnant is EXTREMELY easy! And heaven forbid you should crave sweets-while you’re pregnant your body metabolizes sugar differently than it normally would so that donut/cookie/cupcake/etc that you want? Straight to your hips. You can try to stay away from those sweets but let me just say, easier said than done. As much as I hate to admit it, I’ll be incredibly lucky if I stay in between the recommended weight gain.

-While you know you’re going to gain weight and think you’ll embrace it, you may not. A lot of women are really self conscious about their weight gain. I think it’s pretty normal. Think about your pre-pregnant self and imagine gaining 25-35 lbs. Yeah, I’d rather not too. The last time I was at the doctor’s office the nurse said “well anything you gain now you’ll have to work to lose later.” Girl, you got that right. I CAN’T WAIT to start working out and getting back into shape after this baby comes.

I’m already planning how I’ll lose the weight and get back into shape. I plan on trying out Curves with my sister. In theory I really like their system-they help meal plan and it’s a circuit work out so every time you go in you workout your whole body and it’s supposed to burn about 500 calories each time. Do this 3 or 4 times a week and it should help I hope. I also have the Turbo Fire DVDs that I really do like for a good workout and I’m also going to be exploring other BeachBody workout options to supplement Curves. I’m serious about getting my body back plus maybe losing the “Kansas 15″ I put on after I moved out here.

-Round Ligament Pain. Before I got pregnant and joined an online forum I had never heard of such a thing. No one that I know who has been pregnant has ever mentioned this. Luckily I’m not plagued frequently by this but when it hits it sucks! Usually it hits when I’m grocery shopping or haven’t drank enough water. But almost every time it makes this first time mama to be worry.

-No one ever told me how easily exercising, every day activities, household chores, etc will effect your body. If I do too much around the house I’m sitting for the rest of the night because my back can’t take it. Ryan and I went on a 2 mile walk Sunday with Harley (yay for exercising!) and when I was making dinner when we got back I just wanted to cry from the back pain. I don’t even have back problems normally but doing anything will make those muscles tighten right up. Your hips will also hurt when you do any of these things. A prenatal massage before this is over would be AMAZING.

And let’s not forget you’ll be out of breath so fast it’s embarrassing. Your body is pumping lots of extra blood, you’re carrying more weight than normal. Nothing is the same as it used to be.

-This one may just be me but it is normal for first time moms (to be) to have anxiety. Is the amount I’m feeling normal? Who knows. I’m anxious about everything.

  • The unknown of labor and delivery scares the bejesus out of me. I know and I have read that the female body is made for exactly this but..I’m still not looking forward to it at all. I think the best thing I can do is keep reading, taking in information and continue telling myself that it is a natural process and I need to trust my instincts, body and baby to do the right thing when the time comes.
  • I’m so anxious because we don’t have anything for the baby yet. Okay, I was reminded last night that’s not true. My sister just had her son last year so she’s giving us the bouncy seat and swing that my nephew doesn’t like plus the high chair when we need it and we’re buying her single jogging stroller since they had to get a sit and stand after having their second child. Things we’ve purchased for the baby: a box of wipes, a diaper bag and a 2 hat/2 mittens set. We’ve been given an adorable wipes case from my friend and a giraffe soothing sounds (secret sender from the forum I’m a member of). We only have the stuff we’ve purchased, the wipes case and giraffe soothing sounds at our house, that’s it. We need more for the baby for sure. And then Ryan will start saying things like “babe, we have 3 months left.” 3 Months??!! Do you know how fast time is flying? 3 months is nothing! But luckily we’re going to start buying stuff this month and have a baby shower in early May.
  • Speaking of not being ready…I feel like me and Ryan are not ready to bring home a newborn. How is it they allow you to take home a human being so small? Over Christmas my mother in law jokingly asked if we knew how we would discipline. What are the different parenting styles? How do we chose? Do we sleep train? My list for the unknown could seriously go on and on and on. Lots of reading in my future!

-Nesting is a real thing and it hits earlier than expected. There are a million things on my to-do list and I’m motivated-I really want to do these things…I just need to get the energy first. I do one thing and all I want to do is nap, it’s hard to just keep moving. It’s something I’m working on this week. But really, you should see my growing to do list.

-Things I’ve heard about but haven’t experienced yet:

  • Your nipples may leak. Apparently it’s common enough that people who it doesn’t happen to worry they won’t be able to successfully breastfeed. From what I’ve read and heard leaking while you’re pregnant is no indication of whether or not you’ll be able to successfully breastfeed so no worries. I’m hoping I can get through this pregnancy without any leaking happening or at least till my last month especially because I’ll have to deal with it enough postpartum.
  • You may have problems controlling your bladder. For instance-you could pee when you sneeze, laugh too much or cough. Why do we need to worry about leaking all sorts of bodily fluids while we’re pregnant? Oh and this may continue even after you have the baby. I really need to start doing my kegels, carrying a change of clothes in case I pee is not glamorous.

-And the good stuff:

  • No one ever told me how amazing it is to feel him kicking and moving in there. It is the most reassuring thing ever. I can’t even put it into words.
  • Hearing the heartbeat is pretty amazing too.
  • So is seeing the baby. And seeing your husband’s reaction to finding out the gender? Adorable/amazing. And since that ultrasound (anatomy scan), Ryan has been more participatory in the pregnancy and he’s also talked about the baby a lot more than before. <3
  • You created and are nurturing a life. That’s right, you. And there’s a life inside you, growing by the day.
  • And when that baby comes, you’ll forget all the bad/less glamorous parts (so I hear, we’ll see :) )

An introduction-this is my happily ever after

My name is Tammy and I have a wonderfully amazing husband and we’re expecting our first child this June. Ryan and I got married October 2011. April of 2012 I moved from Pennsylvania to Kansas to be with him.

Ryan’s in the Army active duty and I could not be prouder of what he has accomplished, what he does and who he is. I claim to be a stay at home wife and I am for the most part but I am a Thirty-One Independent Consultant which I do part time for a little extra cash and for the products. 

We have a cat and a dog. Our cat’s name is Glock and he’s a very odd, sometimes frustrating 6-ish year old. Harley, our pup, just turned a year old in December and while she’s not perfect we wouldn’t trade her for anything.

Did you see the part where we’re expecting? I still can’t believe it! The end of June/early July is when this little boy should make his entrance into this crazy world. I’m just a couple days shy of 24 weeks (yay viability!) and things are getting real! I love that I’m feeling him daily now with more distinctive patterns. I’m also feeling more anxious that ready or not (and we’re not ready) this baby is coming in about 16 weeks, give or take a week or two.

So in a nutshell..that’s me..well us, and I can’t wait to start chronicling this never ending journey!